A student once told me that I was the most responsive person on earth.
I thought - note to self, be less responsive.
One motive for being responsive is the fact that we don't want to be perceived as rude. But my need to respond quickly to queries is due to my desire to "get things off my list" so that I can move on. I once heard it referred to as "pre-crastination."
Unfortunately, the stream of endless emails I face every day makes it nearly impossible to ever catch up and leaves me feeling like a bit of a failure when I can't.
I've already created a junk email address to handle communications from companies trying to sell me stuff - sometimes sending me multiple emails per day.
And ghosting friends is common - 1/3 of us do it. (Dhawan, 2022)
But business is different. Ignoring messages in these "always-on" times is frowned upon.
And the colleague who sends a message at 7 pm must have an emergency that they need help with. Or do they? Research shows that most of us overestimate how fast a response our colleagues are expecting.
But at the end of the day it is up to us to set our own boundaries.
Since I work for a company based in Hong Kong, I shut my phone off at 7pm. I also don't check that junk email address very often.
What about you? Are you overwhelmed with the amount of communications that you receive? How do you deal with them? Do you ignore them and hope that they will go away? Do you set boundaries?
How about the people you work with? Are they responsive? If not, how does that make you feel?
Dhawan, E. (2022, February 21) Ignoring a Text Message of Email Isn't Always Rude. Sometimes It's Necessary. nytimes. com. Retrieved February 22, 2022, from https://www.nytimes.com/2022/02/21/opinion/culture/ghosting-work-digital-overload.html